Published in The Memoirist·Jun 5Member-onlyThe Man I’m About to Marry Showed Me These Three ThingsIt would be dangerous not to listen — “That was when,” Michael reflects as we sit in front of a semi-roaring campfire, his back propped against a large gray rock, “I realized there was no act of falling in love. By the time I knew I’d fallen there, I’d already been there for months.” My head sinks deeper…Love5 min read
Published in The Narrative Collective·Apr 28Member-onlyMy Assailant is a Serial Rapist and Murderer, I Wrote About Him and the Aftermath Shook Us AllHere’s what happened — Trauma/CW (Content Warning): This story contains content related to pedophilia, sexual assault, and violence that might be troubling to some readers. “That’s not something I’ve ever really been exposed to,” a friend recounted when I shared my story about speaking with the cold case detective on the case of the…Crime6 min read
Published in An Injustice!·Apr 14Member-onlyMy Baby Almost Died Because I Thought Bottle-Feeding Would Harm HerThe CULTure of mommyhood really needs to change — “It could be fine,” my gynecologist assured me. “I know how much you want to breastfeed.” I nodded, hell-bent on not allowing something as bizarre as the tiny genetic anomaly of inverted nipples to ruin breastfeeding. I had to bond with my daughter in this way, it was the only…Culture6 min read
Published in The Writing Cooperative·Apr 8Member-onlyIf You Want to WriteThe Ethos, Logos, and Pathos of telling it all — The answer is right there, staring at you all the time. It’s simple and can be summed up in one word: write. A lot of voices will direct you down endless paths that hurt, are destructive, and will destroy the urge if you let them. …Writing6 min read
Published in Invisible Illness·Mar 24Member-onlyThe Single Thing Lying Beneath Grief, the BearNo one should live in a world of perpetual death — Author’s note: this is a retelling of imagery associated with a session of Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing (EMDR) used to treat complex post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD). The sun through the aspen leaves mimics afternoon rain dappled throughout the forest. …This Happened To Me5 min read
Published in The Narrative Collective·Feb 28Member-onlyHis Fingers Through My Hair Are the Pleasure Equivalent to a Nuclear BombMy arsenal has no tools to counteract this onslaught — I wasn’t prepared for the explosion of his body in my life. It didn’t happen all at once. Rather, it was a slow, gentle teasing that began with words: hundreds of thousands of words that gently prodded the outer edges of our minds, then worked their way inward, further and…Love4 min read
Published in Hello, Love·Feb 19Member-onlyA Strange Encounter in New York City on a Nerve Date in the Early Two-ThousandsFar, far from a New York state of mind. — “I’m done with traditional ways of finding guys. I’m telling you, this is the future of dating.” Jessica’s blue eyes beamed down at me from her six-foot stature in elegant heels. “Seriously?” My heart raced, which was kind of nice in the bitingly cold East Village wind on that otherwise…Love7 min read
Published in Age of Awareness·Feb 16Member-onlyTeaching the “Toughest Kids” is the Finest Place To Be Right NowPay attention, because this matters to you and your kids, too — The National Education Association (NEA) released a poll citing information we’ve all become drearily accustomed to hearing: educators are fleeing the profession in huge numbers and planning to leave as soon as this year ends at alarming rates. They’re leaving because of old issues we’ve been hearing for decades: low…Education4 min read
Published in The Narrative Collective·Jan 28Member-onlyIt Wasn’t Until I Learned He Was a Serial Killer That I Finally Remembered“That’s probably why you’re still alive” — The black cab whizzes down the gothic streets of Edinburgh, Scotland in 2016. Ewan’s fingers roll over words and symbols as if they hold actual form, thumb, and forefinger pressing together occasionally for emphasis. …This Happened To Me8 min read
Published in Age of Awareness·Jan 15Member-onlyKeeping Schools Open is More Important than Kim Kardashian’s New HairstyleAnd also, pretty much anything else — No, that’s not Kim K, and yes, that hair looks nothing like hers. None of that matters, though, when it comes to what we should all be focusing on. Right. Now. Keeping kids in schools. I know this is a hot topic and I know there are myriad toes to…Education7 min read